It’s All Good: My Default Setting

Years ago, I wrestled with a concept that shook the way I understood my life: what if my experience of reality was coming from the inside, out?

When I looked at certain chapters of my life, I thought, there’s no way I would have consciously written this into my experience. The challenges, the heartbreaks, the unfairness, it all felt like it was happening to me, not through me.

But as I dug deeper, I realized something profound: if we are not consciously creating reality in each moment, then our default settings, our belief systems, take over.

I began to identify what my own defaults were. Beliefs like life isn’t fair. Thoughts like I don’t deserve. And so many other deeply rooted patterns that quietly shaped the way I saw and lived my reality.

I had heard that the “trick” was to live outside of judgment. But as much as I aspired to that, I recognized that I wasn’t there yet. Judgment is woven into human nature, and at the time, I didn’t have the tools to rise completely above it.

So I decided to create an umbrella belief system, a new default setting that could guide me when my mind slipped back into judgment. That belief system was simple: It’s All Good. Whenever something happened that challenged me, I would remind myself: It’s All Good.

Of course, people pushed back. “What about this situation?” they’d ask. “How can you say that’s good?” And I realized I needed something to support my new default. A backup belief system that could hold me when my human perspective couldn’t make sense of things.

Here’s what I came up with: It’s All Good, and if it doesn’t appear to be All Good, it simply means we don’t understand it yet.

This shift didn’t erase challenges or pain. But it reframed them. Instead of being trapped in stories of suffering or unfairness, I could lean into a deeper trust. Instead of believing life was happening against me, I opened to the possibility that life was happening for me.

And over time, this new default changed the way I experienced everything.

What are your default settings?
What beliefs quietly run in the background of your life?
And if they don’t serve you, what new umbrella belief system could you choose today?

My default is, and always will be: It’s All Good.
And when it doesn’t seem that way, I remind myself: we just don’t understand it yet.